Be happy with your life
“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” Seth Godin This resonates with me. Now single, I look back on the last 10 years, where holidays had crept up to 2-3 months a year. The planning and experience helped me to deal […]
Don’t repress your feelings
One of my colleagues, has moved from working with adults to working in the NHS as a child psychotherapist. One of his favourite Freud quotes he tells his adult clients is ‘Unexpressed emotions never die – they are buried alive and come forth later in uglier ways’. He needed to find a way to explain […]
It’s ok to say no
I love to say yes – I love to have options. Often, I have 5 potential things to do on a Saturday night, and I choose one (well, sometimes manage to combine 3!). I love this, love live music and seeing friends. But should I say no more. Should I embrace the quiet time of […]
The mini bucket list
I want you to create a mini bucket list. You know about bucket lists …. people write the things they want to do before they die. These are often to go on long and expensive trips, and fantastic challenges. They must do a sky dive etc. But in life, it’s not just about the big […]
Review of the year 2018
Each year I like to review the year gone and make plans for what I want to do for the year to come. Most people don’t do this, but it is a very helpful discipline to get into. I started back in 2010 and find it helpful to see just how much I have […]
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS (RAK)
You’ve probably heard of random acts of kindness, where you do something nice for someone else with no expectation of getting anything back. I created this blog post 3 years ago, and it is still relevant. There are many ways you can be kind to others and a few years ago there was a video […]
Should you strive for more?
An interesting conversation … should we strive for more? I’m working with a couple of clients, recently moved to new jobs and both want to get ready for the next opportunity. They both have a great deal of energy and have a vision of where they want to be. They have invested in coaching and […]
Minimise Phone Usage
I recognise I spend too much time looking at my phone. Watching TV, queuing in a shop, I can’t resist taking a peak. I need to minimise phone usage. I can go through emails fast, but once I get on Facebook … I’m caught with articles and links and before I know it 20 minutes have […]
Learning from the Psychology of Football
This is the first year I’ve followed football. Taken to matches in the Northern Premier League as a child, I rebelled as soon as I could and proclaimed my indifference to football. But this World Cup … I’m gripped! I’m interested in the skill, but also the relationship side – and how the team work […]
Spring Clean Your life
Why do we spend new year thinking about making major life changes? Spring is a far better time, the weather is (usually) improving, and we are often taking time to spring clean our house. This is a time to clear out the dirt in the back of cupboards, decide what you want to keep […]
